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Called to Serve
Encouragement, support, and inspiration for military families

Authors: Lt. Col. Tony Monetti, Penny Monetti, Copyright @ 2011
Over 2.9 million military personnel—facing serious emotional and spiritual challenges— serve in more than 150 countries. Called to Serve professionally pinpoints the needs of the military family. Real-life stories drawn from twenty-three years of military experience offer encouragement, humor, and tools to combat relational threats from the perspective of the “Warrior” (husband) and his “Spouse.” Thirty compelling, uplifting, and encouraging chapters address the top identified military stressors affecting military personnel and their families. Each account, tied to relevant Scripture, whets the spiritual palate, encouraging the reader to seek additional encouragement from the Bible.

Commitment to Love
Authors:  Deanna McClary, Jerry B. Jenkins,  Copyright @ 2002

When young Deanna Fowler met and married Patrick Cleburn "Clebe" McClary III, she felt as though she'd found her own Prince Charming. It seemed the Southern beauty queen and the handsome "man's man" would live happily ever after.

Then Clebe decided to serve his country and the couple found themselves half-a-world apart as he fought in the tangled jungles of Vietnam. Knowing that every day could be his date with death, Deanna silently wondered if he would ever come back alive. Her fears were justified when Clebe returned barely holding onto life, his body riddled with shrapnel. A hostile grenade attack had severed his left arm and blown out an eye.

Deanna was to become involved with every aspect of his rehabilitation. From that day on, simple tasks such as buttoning a button, tying a shoelace, or cutting up food would have to be done with a helping hand-Deanna's hand. Her love would be put to the test.

How Deanna and Clebe chose to deal with their tragedy will cause you to take a second look at your own marriage. Commentment to Love follows Deanna's determination to have a normal marriage and family life despite the obstacles. As in any marriage, there were times when the taking outweighed the giving and misunderstandings could have driven a deep wedge in their relationship. But Deanna shows that in this age of "quick fixes, speedy divorces, and instant answers to life's most difficult's the tough choice, the careful solution, the lengthy, agonizing struggle, that produces the most beautiful results." There is a need to slow down and seek God's help in coping with the inevitable blows of life.

Through her courage, you may begin to see your own struggles in a different light and learn to draw upon the same Source that continues to bring peace, strength, and security to the McClarys and millions of others who have found the greatest love of all-the love of God.

Faith, Hope, Love & Deployment
40 devotions for military couples
Author: Heather Gray, Copyright @ 2014

Just as Heather Gray and her deployed husband realized, many military couples need more than their own imaginations to keep their marriages flourishing during deployments. This is their answer to that dilemma.

During her husband David's last deployment to Afghanistan, Heather and he realized the need for a devotional that would not only draw them closer to the Lord, but also to each other while separated. They envisioned a combination of scripture memorization, stories of hope and struggles, a revitalization of the lost art of letter writing, and practical ideas for keeping connected during deployment. Not finding such a book, they began writing Faith, Hope, Love, & Deployment. Sadly, three months after beginning the project, David was killed in action.

''To answer the question of why I'm willing to lay my life on the line for my country. . . .'' So began the letter Heather received from her husband on the day of his funeral. The letter was an assignment from Faith, Hope, Love, & Deployment. She knew then the value of the devotional they had been writing for military couples.

At first Heather didn't think she could finish it without his input and support. But in the months that followed, she realized that we actually learn and grow the most through our pain and trials. She finished the devotional with the hope it would be as much a blessing for other military couples as it was for her and David.

Fight For Us
Win back the marriage God intends for you
Author: Chad Robichaux and Adam Davis, Copyright @ 2022

Fight for Us takes couples on an inspiring journey into the challenges of battling for their marriage, through gut-wrenching times of despair, and then finally to the victory of a renewed relationship grounded in Jesus.

Fight for Us delivers a compelling marriage challenge of "five rounds" that teach readers how to develop the never-give-up, never-quit mentality every relationship needs in order to combat the enemy's constant attacks.

Utilizing narrative elements from the real-life story of Chad and Kathy Robichaux, readers will learn how Chad's deployments to Afghanistan as a Marine--and subsequent career as an MMA fighter--allowed him to disengage from his emotions, his marriage, and his children. Then, when his crippling PTSD brought him to brink of suicide, Kathy's pastor taught him the "five rounds" of fighting that are necessary in the battle for any marriage:
  • Believe that God loves you and has a purpose for your life.
  • Take responsibility for your actions.
  • Accept that you can't change the evils that you've encountered.
  • Access God's power.
  • Put yourself second.

At the end of the rounds, readers will discover God's design for marriage, which saved Chad and Kathy's relationship. Today, they aim to pay it forward and share what they've learned with other couples. Fight for Us features application sections, discussion prompts, affirmations, and Bible verses, all designed to help readers apply the book's key marriage principles.

Fighting for Your Marriage
Positive steps for preventing divorce and preserving a lasting love
Authors: Howard J. Markman, Scott M. Stanley, Susan L. Blumberg, Copyright @ 2010

The guide that shows you how to fight for your marriage.

This new and revised edition of Fighting for Your Marriage is based on the widely acclaimed PREP (Prevention and Relationship Enhancement Program) approach. Ground-breaking studies have found that couples can use the strategies of this aproach to handle conflict more constructively, protect their happiness, and reduce the odds of breaking up. Based on twenty years of university research, this popular book will show you how to:

  • Talk more and fight less
  • Deepen and protect your friendship
  • Have a more intimate, sensual relationship
  • Keep the fun alive
  • Clarify and act on your priorities
  • Develop a vision for your future together

Fireproof (movie)
Never leave your partner behind
Copyright @ 2008

Lt. Caleb Holt lives by the old firefighter's adage: Never leave your partner behind. Inside burning buildings, it's his natural instinct. In the cooling embers of his marriage, it's another story. After a decade of marriage, Caleb and Catherine Holt have drifted so far apart that they are ready to move on without each other. Yet as they prepare to enter divorce proceedings, Caleb's dad asks his son to try an experiment: The Love Dare. While hoping The Love Dare has nothing to do with his parents' newfound faith, Caleb commits to the challenge. But can he attempt to love his wife while avoiding God's love for him? Will he be able to demonstrate love over and over again to a person that's no longer receptive to his love? Or is this just another marriage destined to go up in smoke? 

God + Military Spouse
United our families will stand
Author: Kathleen Cline, Copyright @ 2008

When the Iraq war first broke out there was ramped support for the military but as time went on personal support dwindled. Yet given the extended tour of duty, support became increasingly necessary to help women and their children get through long deployments and absences of husbands and fathers. As the wife of a Navy man, Kathleen Cline discovered that while there are many helpful books for women, there were none specifically for military wives and the particular challenges they face. During her overseas tour she also learned the importance of the Naval Chapel and the support it gives to military families. At the last three duty stations she volunteered at the Naval Chapel, teaching children church, leading womans Bible study and helping to organize VBS. Now, due to the war, the Naval Chapels focus must be on the active duty member which has left a gap of Biblical education for the family members. God + Military Spouse is the result of this need, and Kathleen Cline is qualified to offer it. From predeployment anxiety, to loneliness, depression and even temptation, God + Military Spouse is the support group manual for military wives and study groups who are serious about preserving the treasure of marriage and family. 

Marriage Advance
Love never gives up
Authors: Chad Robichaux, Kathy Robichaux
Contributor: John Mizerak, Copyright @ 2015

Develop a stronger marriage, through this 26-week workbook, as you experience Chad and Kathy Robichaux's testimony from brokenness to restoration in Christ!

After serving in the War on Terror in Afghanistan, Special Operations Force Recon Marine Chad Robichaux returned home and was diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Through the accolades of military service and the notoriety that comes with being a top ranked Professional MMA Fighter, few saw beneath the surface where the reality was brokenness and despair. Subsequently, he and his wife, Kathy, spent the next 3 years in a downward spiral nearly ending in divorce. When all seemed lost, one wife's prayers and willingness to fight, to not throw in the towel, would lift her Warrior back to his feet and help him engage in the fight for the most important things in their life... their faith, marriage, family, and legacy.

Join Chad and Kathy Robichaux as they lead you through 26 weeks of compelling personal testimony with practical, thought-provoking questions and Biblical Truths, helping you build a stronger marriage that will always be "advancing" toward the ultimate success God had in mind when YOU said, "I DO!"

Mission Ready Marriage
My life as an active duty wife
Author: Claire Wood, Copyright @ 2015

Our nation has been at war for over a decade. This means many active duty military personnel have been in a constant cycle of training, deployments and reintegration. Unfortunately, the stresses and difficulties of being on the job aren’t only affecting soldiers but also their spouses and family members. These prolonged and significant pressures are taking a devastating toll on many military marriages.

As a relatively new active duty military spouse, Claire walks readers through many of the common trials of active duty life. From assignments, relocation, making friends and reinventing yourself at each new duty station, to the painful moments of the deployment and reintegration, Claire shares her personal struggles to make sense of what it means to be a supportive military spouse and do her part to keep her own marriage mission ready.

As a Christian, Claire explores the idea of what it means to live her life in full submission to God, her husband and her country. With humor and deep emotion, she shares how this isn’t her natural, typical response. You might even say she has gone kicking and screaming (and sometimes crying) at every turn.

Claire hopes that her own experiences and reflections will inspire other military spouses to stay the course, keep the faith and find hope for the future. You don’t have to be a military spouse to relate to and understand the ideas presented in this book. Mission Ready Marriage is for anyone who has ever wondered if God had the right person in mind for their current assignment. God has called each of us to honor our husbands in our partnerships and he has given us everything we need for the mission field in which he has placed each of us.

You will find a series of questions for reflection at the end of each chapter asking you to think through some of your own experiences, trials and victories as a military spouse. Optionally, this set-up (13 chapters) is designed to be used as a semester-long study in a women’s Bible study, spouse group or book club. One of the best resources I have found for military spouses is other military spouses sharing their wisdom. The questions at the end of each chapter have been formulated to prompt meaningful discussion and sharing of such ideas.

On the Frontline
A personal guidebook for the physical, emotional, and spiritual challenges of military life
Author: Tom Neven, Copyright @ 2006

The struggles and temptations our service men and women encounter are unique and beyond what civilians might ever face. Written from someone who's been there, this book addresses head-on the issues prevalent in military life: loneliness, fidelity, debt, fear and much more. It's a must-read handbook with uncompromising biblical guidance that will encourage and inspire both men and women in military service.

Operation Military Family
How to strengthen your military marriage and save your family
Author: Michael J.R. Schindler, Copyright @ 2007

Our children's well-being depends on it. Our military is fighting to preserve it. Our nation's strength is a result of it. What is it? A successful marriage.

Operation Military Family offers a unique look at how military couples strengthen their marriages despite the challenges brought on by unexpected or extended deployments. This book offers the "how-to's" on:

  • Establishing a pre- and post-deployment plan
  • Discovering the vision for your marriage
  • Relating to your spouse in spite of circumstances
  • Tapping powerful resources at little to no out-of-pocket cost

Now is the time to invest heavily in your greatest asset: your marriage.

Sacred Spaces
My journey to the heart of military marriage
Author: Corie Weathers, Copyright @2016
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Like many military couples, Corie and her husband, Matt, an Army chaplain, accumulated significant unshared moments during Matt's deployments. Matt lost friends and fellow soldiers to combat in Afghanistan. On the home front, Corie sat with bereaved military families and walked through dark days with new widows as a friend and professional counselor. When Matt returned, he and Corie began using the term "sacred spaces" for these and other significant moments they had experienced independently. After multiple deployments, sacred spaces were taking up a lot of emotional room in their relationship.

When US Secretary of Defense Ashton Carter invited Corie, as the 2015 Armed Forces Insurance Military Spouse of the Year, to join his team on a one-week overseas holiday trip, she eagerly accepted, hoping to gain a better understanding of her husband's deployment experience and lessen the impact sacred spaces had on her marriage.

Corie didn't choose the timing or circumstances of her trip with Secretary Carter--Christmastime, in the midst of her family's second cross-state move in six months--but it seemed the perfect opportunity for Corie and Matt to gain a better understanding of each other's perspectives.

Matt experienced life on the home front with new eyes as he moved their household belongings, prepared for the holidays, and settled their two young sons into their new school.

At US military installations and aboard aircraft and aircraft carriers in Turkey, Iraq, Afghanistan, and the Persian Gulf, Corie spoke with military families stationed overseas and deployed troops on the ground, in the air, and at sea. She paid close attention to her own sensory and emotional reactions to these new environments and recorded her thoughts each day via video log, blog, and social media. She also wrote about the trip for Military Spouse magazine.

While she wanted to inform other military families about her discoveries, Corie deeply hoped the trip would impact her own marriage as well. She didn't choose the locations the entourage would visit, yet fate landed her in the very place that had changed the trajectory of her life.

As Corie sat in the belly of a C-17, where her husband had said goodbye to the remains of friends and fellow soldiers, as she touched with her own hands the memorial at FOB Fenty and reflected on her grief as a care team member following the battle of COP Keating, Corie realized this journey was about much more than the push-pull of duty away from loved ones.

This was a journey to the heart of her marriage, a place where she would have to leave behind her resentment in exchange for ground she and her husband had surrendered to hurt, misunderstanding, loss--and to Afghanistan.

Corie set out on this trip hoping to gain a better understanding of her husband and his deployment experience, but along the way, she discovered a whole new perspective of herself and her military marriage. By sharing her story, Corie hopes to help other military couples strengthen their marriages.

Separate and Strong
Author: Chaplain Shawn McCammon, Copyright @ 2012

A prolonged separation will tremendously impact an entire family, but separation does not mean disintegration. Whether you find yourself at home or away, in the military or another occupation that pulls one away from home, the lessons learned within these pages are for you. There is much within the Word of God that is seemingly impossible to accomplish. But our Father promised that He would never leave our side and that what we endure is for our strength and His glory. Will you choose to trust Him? Will you put your marriage into His hands to build a more intimate relationship with Him and each other? Will you commit yourself to finishing well?

Hi, I'm Chaplain Shawn McCammon.  I have the privilege of serving with our nation's military heroes and ministering to their needs.  Part of this service includes times of extended separation from my family which creates unavoidable strain.  Despite the negatives, my wife, Julie, and I have found hope and have experienced positive growth in our relationship as a direct result of our times apart.  Sadly, this is not as common as we would like to hope. I have seen countless marriages fall apart because they do not have strategies or a battle plan in place during separations. 
Separate and Strong is that battle plan. Strength can be gained not only despite hardship, but more significantly because of hardships. God has a unique, intensely powerful way of working in spouses who are separated if we allow Him to do so. The result is strength of character that will rearrange our marriages in ways that knock our socks off and glorify God! 

Stop Being a _________ Wife
40 Challenges to Unveil the Wife You Were Created to Be
Author: Ashley Ashcroft, Copyright @ 2021

Are you willing to stop being a _______ wife so you can become the wife God created you to be?

The graphically designed pages of this book will encourage you to move straight to the challenges. Each page consists of a daily challenge, a brief description, a Scripture verse, and a time suggestion. In just one minute of reading per day, you’ll be equipped to complete challenges that encourage, intoxicate, serve, and surprise your spouse. This book is about propelling you to act in your marriage.

It’s easy to fantasize about a dreamy marriage and envision yourself as the ideal wife, but the reality is that life is hard (and busy!). Somewhere along the way, the brilliant wife we aspire to be fades into the background, but we don’t have to stay there.

After over a decade of serving as a military spouse, Ashley struggled to free herself from the burdensome layers of exhaustion, stress, and resentment. She decided to fast from being a critical wife for 40 days, knowing that following Jesus’ example of love and humble service was the only way to unveil the wife God created her to be. In place of criticism, Ashley lived out these simple, powerful, and exhilarating challenges to reinvigorate her marriage.

Through these challenges, you’ll learn how to:

✓ Prioritize pursuing your husband

✓ Invite God into your marriage

✓ Follow Jesus’ model of love and service

✓Cultivate intoxicating intimacy; yes, that’s biblical

✓Infuse fun into your marriage

So, are you ready to pursue your husband like never before? Journey with Ashley on this heart-changing adventure as she helps you to discover God's abundant plan for your marriage. You’ll never be the same again, in such a good way.

Strategic Methods for a Successful Marriage
Author: Dr. Daniel Middlebrooks, Copyright 2016
What does it take for the military to learn how to win our national values? Surprisingly, they are the same principles that it takes for a new husband and wife to learn the techniques that will help them win the daily battles of marriage?

Just as our Armed Forces dedicate the first year to the crucial transformation of a man or a woman in to a mighty warrior, so to a new husband and wife need to dedicate themselves to the most important the world can ever experience; the force of a faith filled family.

If you are new to marriage you need to learn the time-tested tactics that will do more than help you survive in a marriage; you need these techniques to thrive.

In military operations, there are necessary steps taken to ensure that the mission is successful. One critical step is the process of training. It begins with the first year's induction into the new military culture and community through Basic Training. It then moves into the advanced individual training for the right skill and then proceeds to a continuous on-the-job training that sharpens the skill to a razor's edge to create a warrior that can cut through the thickest of enemy lines.

Just like a military operation that protects and defends our nation from an enemy attack, a "Marriage Operation" is just as crucial for the safety and security of our country because the tapestry of the American flag is interwoven with the threads of its families.

This book takes the historical Soldier making principles of our Armed forces and puts them into practical practices that ensures the first year of marriage has the needed tools, skills, and protection to create the greatest Army any country can ever have- the family.

The 5 Love Languages Military Edition
The secret to love that lasts
Authors: Dr. Gary Chapman, Jocelyn Green, Copyright @ 2013
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Link to FREE Love Languages of Military Children

Marriage is hard enough for the everyday civilian. But imagine marriage when you're separated by thousands of miles . . . when one of you daily faces the dangers of combat . . . while the other shoulders all the burden of home front duties. Add to that unpredictable schedules, frequent moves, and the challenge of reintegration, and it's no wonder military marriages are under stress. Husbands and wives in all five branches of the military need a special resource to help them navigate marriage in the midst of it all. These men and women who are giving so much for so many need a way to love one another - a way that powerfully communicates to the heart.

The 5 Love Languages has a successful track record of helping military couples heal broken relationships and strengthen healthy relationships. Now this #1 New York Times bestseller has been adapted specifically for military couples.

Special features of the Military Edition include:
  • Stories of military couples from every branch of service who have found ways to use the 5 love languages in their unique lifestyles
  • A Decoding Deployments section at the end of each love language chapter, offering tips on how to express love when you are apart.
  • A new chapter, Love Language Scramblers, explains how to speak the love languages through some of the most challenging times of a military marriage.
  • An updated Q&A section to include questions specific to military marriage.

The 5 Love Languages profile will help you and your partner identify your love languages so you can put the principles to work for you immediately. Guided by input from dozens of military couples in all stages of their careers, authors Gary Chapman and former military wife Jocelyn Green offer you an unparalleled tool for your marriage with The 5 Love Languages Military Edition.

Also, every book comes with instructions for how to receive a FREE eBook copy for your partner. Read it together—even during deployment!

The Military Marriage Manual
Tactics for successful relationships
Authors: Janelle Hill, Cheryl Lawhorne, Don Philpott
Copyright @ 2011

At a time when divorce and suicide rates are at record levels in the military, The Military Marriage Manual: Tactics for Successful Relationships is an invaluable aid to members of the military and their spouses and families. The book presents advice for couples on a range of issues, both extraordinary and mundane, both those specific to military marriages and those common to all marriages, such as:
  • the ceremony
  • relationships with friends and family
  • household responsibilities
  • finances
  • dealing with tension and conflict
  • raising a family
  • domestic violence
  • deployment
  • long periods apart
  • injuries
  • depression
  • relocating
  • and much more

The information in the book is presented chronologically, beginning from the day a couple decides to get married. It follows them through the engagement, ceremony, and marriage, and discusses the many issues that arise, offering guidance on how to overcome them and strengthen a couple's marriage, as well as their relationships with those around them. There is no better, more comprehensive resource for those who are dealing with the pressures and problems unique to marriage in the military.

The Survival Guide for Marriage in the Military
Author: Gene Thomas Gomulka, Copyright @ 2007

The revised edition of The Survival Guide for Marriage in the Military for dating, engaged and married military couples is an interactive work that helps couples assess their strengths and weaknesses in nine critical areas (Communication, Conflict Resolution, Finances, Sexuality, etc.). Once partners have each completed a detachable inventory, counseling insights found in the book aid couples in their discussion of certain potentially problematic statements identified in the self-grading process. The "counseling insights," based on years of counseling experience and input provided by hundreds of military couples, counselors and chaplains, are similar to the type of guidance offered to couples by counseling professionals. Reviews and couple feedback demonstrate why it is, without a doubt, the best book on the market today for dating, engaged and married personnel. Couples reunited after deployments, particularly to countries like Iraq and Afghanistan, have found it particularly beneficial in their relationships. An indispensable tool for both military couples and professionals, the book aims to reduce high divorce rates, promote deeper emotional and sexual intimacy, and enhance a couple's chances for a long-lasting and happy marriage despite the challenges of life in the armed services. 

The Treasure of Staying Connected for Military Couples
Author: Janel Lange, Copyright @ 2004

This book is a lifeline for couples stressed by military life, especially the lengthy separations. Short "real life" stories of couples growing through the tough times are expanded by comments from the author, a Navy wife of 25 years, who also has 25 years experience in presenting marriage enrichment programs. 

The Warrior's Bride
Biblical Strategies to Help the Military Spouse Thrive
Authors: Kathy Barnett and Carrie Daws, Copyright @ 2014

The call came down from Command, and your warrior husband is out the door, leaving you behind to handle whatever he has left undone. Whether it's the day-to-day monotony, the inevitable appliance that breaks, or the months without his presence beside you, being a military spouse brings challenges few appreciate. Yet God sees you and longs for you to boldly step into His plan. He purposely chose you for this moment- for your man. He wants to give you abundantly more than what you have right now and desires you to thrive as your warrior's bride.

Beyond Warrior's Bride - Book 1
Your Extended Family: A Military Spouse's Biblical Guide to Surviving Within and Without Your Family (Beyond Warrior's Bride Book 1)
Author: Carrie Daws, Copyright @ 2015

Family. They can be one of our biggest blessings and one of our biggest stressors. Family members that don’t understand the military system can complicate your life, and sometimes the best-intentioned relative can undercut everything you are trying to build with your husband.

Living far away can also be hard if you have a medical emergency. Deployments and high ops tempos give loneliness and depression the opportunity can take over. Are there really any practical answers? What does the Bible say about dealing with and living apart from family.

The Whole Armor of Marriage
Author: Caroline Jens, Copyright @ 2013

Many military marriages and relationships suffer and fall apart because families are not prepared to handle deployment and long separations. Soldiers at war have various types of military-approved armor to protect them. However, this armor won't do any good if the soldiers aren't trained to apply it correctly, or if they don't take the time to maintain each piece. To ensure this happens, these soldiers are instilled with discipline so they don't go unprotected. Now imagine a higher level of preparation, a different type of armor. When applied, this armor is impenetrable by all things and all weapons. This fail-proof defensive weapon is spiritual armor! If we can learn how to take that discipline one step further and protect our soldiers and families spiritually, we'll have a better chance of enduring those times of separation.

The Whole Armor of Marriage will attempt to teach couples how to communicate better while apart and give them tools to make separation times easier. You will also learn to include God in your relationship which can be life-changing to a family. You and your spouse can achieve oneness with God that can bring your relationship to a whole new level. The Whole Armor of Marriage was written to help families grow stronger during deployments and extended times apart. 

Within the book, you'll find valuable tools and ideas the author used when they experienced a fifteen-month deployment. During their time apart, they learned how to apply spiritual armor daily, which protected their marriage from becoming part of the divorce statistics. We all need to protect and value our marriages as priceless treasures. When you view your marriage in this light, you will want to do whatever you can, at all costs, to keep it safe. As you read The Whole Armor of Marriage, consider the daily protection you can hold onto that will keep yourself and your family secure. Whole Armor of Marriage should be read by both you and your spouse with an open heart and mind.

Warrior Wife
Overcoming the unique struggles of a military marriage
Author: Hillary Sigrist, Copyright @ 2015

When you hold the hand of a warrior, you're joining him on a quest-one that traverses glory and pain. It's a journey traveled by few, and fewer make it through till completion. Extraordinary men have run our colors across the battlefields of history, but behind them have been the women who have held vigil as they go.
This passage in matrimony is unique in the way the military will change you, your husband, and your marriage. PTSD, deployments, or never-ending household moves are just some ways a "new normal" lifestyle will challenge even the strongest foundations. But what doesn't break you will make you stronger if you let it!

This book will illustrate the courage, support, and faith it takes to overcome the challenges of military marriages, as well as the tools, understanding, and insight to enter into the rewarding experience of being a warrior wife.

Non-military marriage books

Before the Last Resort
3 simple questions to rescue your marriage
Author: George Kenworthy, Copyright @ 2014

To marriages on life support, pastor, counselor, and professor, Dr. George Kenworthy, poses three simple questions and restores the hope of I do. He confidently illuminates God's power to heal concerns ranging from I'm just not happy to hardcore issues. Included is a Help-Me-Help-My-Friend guide that assists anyone desiring to help a friend get their marriage back on track.

Every Man's Battle
Winning the war on sexual temptation one victory at a time
Authors: Steve Arterburn and Fred Stoeker, Copyright @ 2009

The challenge every man faces...the fight every man can win!

From movies and television, to print media and the Internet, men are constantly faced with the assault of sensual images. It is impossible to avoid such temptations... but, thankfully, not impossible to confront them and gain victory over them!

Millions have found Every Man’s Battle the single greatest resource for overcoming the struggle and remaining strong in the face of temptation. With extensive updates for a new generation, this phenomenal bestseller shares the stories of dozens who have escaped the trap of sexual immorality and presents a practical, detailed plan for any man who desires sexual integrity. 

Includes a comprehensive workbook and a special section for women, designed to help them understand and support the men they love.

Every Woman's Battle
Discovering God's plan for sexual and emotional fulfillment
Author: Shannon Ethridge, Copyright @ 2009

Your sexual needs are far different from your man's. And they may be more dangerous.

When does an affair begin? Not with the first forbidden touch...but with the first forbidden thought. Unexpectedly, you find yourself enjoying a powerful emotional bond with another man. You feel like you matter to someone again. And the door you thought was locked so firmly--the door to sexual infidelity--is suddenly ajar.

The only way you as a woman can survive the intense struggle for sexual integrity is by guarding not just your body, but your mind and heart as well. Every Woman's Battle can help you learn to do that.

Using real-life stories and examples from her own struggle, Shannon Ethridge helps women like you--whether married, engaged, or planning to marry someday--to:

  • understand the four unique components of female sexuality
  • discern the common myths that keep women standing in the line of fire
  • design a new defense to protect every aspect of your life
  • cultivate an unimaginable level of intimacy with your husband or husband-to-be
  • develop an affair with the one and only Lover who will truly satisfy your innermost desires: Jesus Christ

The first step in winning the struggle for sexual integrity is to wake up to the battle raging in your heart and mind. Every Woman's Battle will help you take that step--and lead you on a lifelong path to true joy and fulfillment, sexually, emotionally, and spiritually. (Workbook also available)

Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage
Unlocking the secrets to life, love, and marriage
Author: Mark Gungor, Copyright @ 2009

Based on Mark Gungor's wildly popular seminar, Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage® builds on Gungor's success with tens of thousands of couples who credit him with enriching, and even saving, their marriages. By using his unique blend of humor and tell-it-like-it-is honesty, he helps couples get along and have fun doing it.

Through exploring a variety of subjects including the myth of a "soul mate," the different ways men and women think, the conflicting levels of libido, and the necessity to forgive, Gungor proves that the key to marital bliss is not romance or destiny -- it's work and skill. Couples need to work hard at maintaining their relationship and to have the skills to pull it off. The longer spouses wait to learn these skills, the greater their chance of wanting to bail, yet Gungor makes it easy for couples to bring their relationship to the next level. 

Love and Respect
The love she most desires; The respect he desperately needs
Author: Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, Copyright @ 2004

A Marriage Book with a Difference!

A Revolutionary Message:  "I've been married 35 years and have not heard this taught." "This is the key that I have been missing." "A lightbulb moment." "You connected all the dots for me." "As a counselor, I have never been so excited about any material." "You're on to something huge here." 

A Simple Message:  A wife has one driving need -- to feel loved. When that need is met, she is happy. A husband has one driving need -- to feel respected. When that need is met, he is happy. When either of these needs isn't met, things get crazy. "Love and Respect" reveals why spouses react negatively to each other, and how they can deal with such conflict quickly, easily and biblically. 

A Message That Works:  Based on over three decades of counseling, as well as scientific and biblical research, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs and his wife, Sarah, have already taken the "Love and Respect" message across America and are changing the way couples talk to, think about, and treat each other.

What do you want for your marriage? Want some peace? Want to feel close? Want to feel valued? Want to experience marriage the way God intended? Then why not try some Love and Respect. 

Surviving a Spiritual Mismatch in Marriage
Author: Leslie Strobel, Copyright @ 2002

Someone came between Lee and Leslie Strobel, threatening to shipwreck their marriage. No, it wasn't an old flame. It was Jesus Christ. Leslie's decision to become a follower of Jesus brought heated opposition from her skeptical husband. They began to experience conflict over a variety of issues, from finances to child-rearing. But over time, Leslie learned how to survive a spiritual mismatch. Today they're both Christians--and they want you to know that there is hope if you're a Christian married to a nonbeliever.

In their intensely personal and practical book, they reveal:
  • Surprising insights into the thinking of non-Christian spouses
  • A dozen steps toward making the most of your mismatched marriage
  • Eight principles for reaching out to your partner with the gospel
  • Advice for raising your children in a spiritually mismatched home
  • How to pray for your spouse--plus a 30-day guide to get you started
  • What to do if you're both Christians but one lags behind spiritually
  • Advice for single Christians to avoid the pain of a mismatch

The Enticement of the Forbidden
Protecting your marriage
Author: Judy Starr, Copyright @ 2004

Broken vows and shattered relationships: It’s epidemic. Yet few believe they’ll ever become involved in an affair. But in a world obsessed with sex, the spiritual and physical integrity required to maintain New Testament moral purity requires uncommon intimacy with God. Here those seeking to avoid becoming the next painful statistic will find genuine help.

  • Discover God’s ideal for intimacy
  • Form and sustain the bond of love
  • Affair-proof your mind and heart

Enticement of the Forbidden tackles infidelity—head on. Sharing honestly from her personal experience, Judy Starr brings hope to those who have slipped. For all women seeking purity of heart, mind and soul she reveals the secret to sustained purity through the power of God. Everyone who discovers this power source will cherish an abundant harvest of fruit growing from…

  • Confronting temptation
  • Maintaining spiritual intimacy
  • Protecting moral purity God’s way
  • Guarding the mind from crossing that invisible line

The Love Dare
Authors: Stephen Kendrick and Alex Kendrick , Copyright @ 2013

Unconditional love is eagerly promised at weddings, but rarely practiced in real life. As a result, romantic hopes are often replaced with disappointment in the home. But it doesn’t have to stay that way.

The Love Dare, the New York Times No. 1 best seller that has sold five million copies and was major plot device in the popular movie Fireproof, is a 40-day challenge for husbands and wives to understand and practice unconditional love. Whether your marriage is hanging by a thread or healthy and strong, The Love Dare is a journey you need to take. It’s time to learn the keys to finding true intimacy and developing a dynamic marriage.

This second edition also features a special link to a free online marriage evaluation, a new preface by Stephen and Alex Kendrick, minor text updates, and select testimonials from The Love Dare readers. Take the dare!

Dare to take The Love Dare, and see your marriage change forever. Click here for the The 40 Days of Deployment  Dare from

Military marriage Bible studies

Defending the Military Marriage
Homebuilders Couples
Authors: Jim Fishback and Bea Fishback, Copyright @ 2004

Lt. Col. Jim Fishback and wife Bea discuss Defending the Military Marriage. A small group study designed to help military couples build a solid marriage. Covers items such as communicating, basic training, sexual accountability and love.

Enhancing Your Marriage
A woman's Bible study
Author: Judy Rossi, Copyright @ 2004

Being in a love-relationship with Jesus Christ can't help but influence our love-relationship with our spouses. Jesus will see to that. He calls us to Himself and lovingly begins to retool our souls. And much of the work takes place in the workshop of our marriages. Enhancing Your Marriage: A Women's Bible Study will challenge you to follow God in your marriage, to let Him have full access to your life, to permit Him to re-tool your role as your husband's wife in accordance with His truth, all the while shaping you into the image of His Son. He will challenge you in every area of your marriage: love, respect, attitude, commitment, friendship, sex, romance, communication, prayer. And whether you study this book on your own or with a group, you will learn to enjoy and maximize the perks of your marriage while gaining a new freedom and confidence to address the problems of your marriage. Your relationship with your husband will become a purposeful adventure! (Not specifically a military Bible study, however, I have included it as Judy Rossi is the wife of a retired Colonel in the U.S. Army.)

God + Military Spouse
United our families will stand
Author: Kathleen Cline, Copyright @ 2008

When the Iraq war first broke out there was ramped support for the military but as time went on personal support dwindled. Yet given the extended tour of duty, support became increasingly necessary to help women and their children get through long deployments and absences of husbands and fathers. As the wife of a Navy man, Kathleen Cline discovered that while there are many helpful books for women, there were none specifically for military wives and the particular challenges they face. During her overseas tour she also learned the importance of the Naval Chapel and the support it gives to military families. At the last three duty stations she volunteered at the Naval Chapel, teaching children church, leading womans Bible study and helping to organize VBS. Now, due to the war, the Naval Chapels focus must be on the active duty member which has left a gap of Biblical education for the family members. God + Military Spouse is the result of this need, and Kathleen Cline is qualified to offer it. From predeployment anxiety, to loneliness, depression and even temptation, God + Military Spouse is the support group manual for military wives and study groups who are serious about preserving the treasure of marriage and family. 

Loving Your Military Man
Author: Bea Fishback, Copyright @ 2007

A small-group study designed to help military wives love their husbands.

From her first day in Seoul, Korea, author Bea Fishback quickly discovered the fairy tale marriage she expected was indeed just a fairy tale. Her Prince Charming, an Army officer, would regularly disappear for field maneuvers and TDYs. As a result of this and other pressures, they found themselves approaching a marital impasse and ultimately isolation. 

Bea began to overcome this isolation by applying the advice Paul gives in Philippians 4:8 to focus on whatever is true, honorable, righteous, lovely, of good repute, excellent, and worthy of praise. In this ten-part study, she encourages military wives to love their husbands in this way. Bea shows how to help build lifelong marriages that leave strong, stable legacies for their children and grandchildren. 

Making Your Marriage Deployment Ready
Homebuilders Couples
Authors: Mike and Linda Montgomery and Keith and Sharon Morgan, Copyright @ 2008

Divorce rates among military families are at epidemic proportions with repeated deployments and the normal challenges of military life taking their toll. The most vulnerable victims of family stress are military children. Many of the solutions to family unity are spiritual in nature. Making Your Marriage Deployment Ready is an important part of a ministry to establish Hope on the Home Front and give families the faith and knowledge of Jesus Christ.

Making Your Marriage Deployment Ready uses time tested marriage principles and prepares military couples with the necessary tools to counter deployment challenges and bring hope and victory to active duty, Guard and Reserve families. It is the definitive small group Bible study for preparing a couple to live victoriously despite the stresses of deployments and today’s demanding military lifestyle.
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